Trying times...
Trying times...
There has a been a personal issue that I (well the wife and I) have been trying to come to terms with. Now I feel that I can talk about. Bit of background info first...
The wife and I have been trying to start a family now for a few years. The time is/was right for us now (both have good jobs/careers, built our own home etc). We are now approaching our late 20's/early 30's, so we thought now is a good time to start our family (at least we can provide/put a roof over us and our children).
As nothing happened naturally, my wife decided to see our GP who then refered her to a specialist. Since then she has been undergoing fertility treatment and before Easter we were told that my wife has cancerous cells in her uterus (Cancer in her womb). The specialists have tried (but failed) to remove the cancer, but we have to face the reality that the wife needs a hysterectomy (at the age of 27) to remove the cancer, meaning we won't be able to have any children. As you can understand, we have been totally devasted by this news (more so the wife).
We are from a indian background, those of you who are from a similar background (well regardless of background/culture I suppose) will know that having a child/children is the done thing- its natural to have a baby. We haven't told our parents as yet for 2 reasons: 1. How do you tell your parents the you will not be able to have children (they won't have grandchildren) and 2. My wife had a MRI scan last week to determe how bad the cancer is (there is a chance that if her eggs have not been affected by the cancer, then surrogacy may be a possibility). We are due to get the MRI results tomorrow.
All is not lost, as we know that we can adopt, and also our Sister-in-law (wife's brother missus) has told us that she is willing to be a surrogate for us. My priority right now is my wife's health.
Apologies for the long thread, but I wanted to get things off my chest.
Thanks
Kam.
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Some of you may have noticed that I haven't been posting up much on OJC over the past fortnight.
There has a been a personal issue that I (well the wife and I) have been trying to come to terms with. Now I feel that I can talk about. Bit of background info first...
The wife and I have been trying to start a family now for a few years. The time is/was right for us now (both have good jobs/careers, built our own home etc). We are now approaching our late 20's/early 30's, so we thought now is a good time to start our family (at least we can provide/put a roof over us and our children).
As nothing happened naturally, my wife decided to see our GP who then refered her to a specialist. Since then she has been undergoing fertility treatment and before Easter we were told that my wife has cancerous cells in her uterus (Cancer in her womb). The specialists have tried (but failed) to remove the cancer, but we have to face the reality that the wife needs a hysterectomy (at the age of 27) to remove the cancer, meaning we won't be able to have any children. As you can understand, we have been totally devasted by this news (more so the wife).
We are from a indian background, those of you who are from a similar background (well regardless of background/culture I suppose) will know that having a child/children is the done thing- its natural to have a baby. We haven't told our parents as yet for 2 reasons: 1. How do you tell your parents the you will not be able to have children (they won't have grandchildren) and 2. My wife had a MRI scan last week to determe how bad the cancer is (there is a chance that if her eggs have not been affected by the cancer, then surrogacy may be a possibility). We are due to get the MRI results tomorrow.
All is not lost, as we know that we can adopt, and also our Sister-in-law (wife's brother missus) has told us that she is willing to be a surrogate for us. My priority right now is my wife's health.
Apologies for the long thread, but I wanted to get things off my chest.
Thanks
Kam.
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Do you think they would be more annoyed that they cant have grandchildren or more sorry for you and the wife ?? Get the support of family ie, your real family and not just us .
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Well that is very bad news for you and your wife, but the thing you should do Now is tell your and your wifes parents. At a time of need you Need the support of your family.
Do you think they would be more annoyed that they cant have grandchildren or more sorry for you and the wife ?? Get the support of family ie, your real family and not just us .
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Mods:...WIM geometry setup & fine tune, K&N Air filter, Stainless steel A/C rings, Brodit phone kit, Stainless steel clock surround, B&M Shortshifter & LED Domelight, Maplight & Sun Visors, OEM Chrome exhaust tip, OEM rubber bootliner, Fan type windscreen washer jets, LS430 Side repeaters, OEM LE grille, OEM cargo net, Front OEM armrest
Thanks for the advice Moley, as said we want to know the results of the MRI scan first before we say anything to family (as all may not be lost). We know our families will support us.
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You must tell your families so they can help you through this difficuilt time.
I am sure the idea of a surrogate mother is one that could help you both.
At the moment you both must work hard together to get through this difficult time by showing each other the love you have to get through.
Good luck in what ever you decide and i am sure that your wishes will be answered.
Mate what can i say but really sorry to hear this news.
You must tell your families so they can help you through this difficuilt time.
I am sure the idea of a surrogate mother is one that could help you both.
At the moment you both must work hard together to get through this difficult time by showing each other the love you have to get through.
Good luck in what ever you decide and i am sure that your wishes will be answered.
"Life's goal is not to arrive safely at the grave in a well preserved body. But, rather to skid in sideways........
totally worn out and broken, shouting 'Holy ****, WHAT A RIDE!'"
FirebirdPhil
01-03-2017, 02:39 AM #5Its hard for me to even to imagine how you feel, cancer is not something I have any experience with and children are not in any way part of my life plan. But I am sure you will find all the help and support from your family and of course your friends and those close to you.
"Life's goal is not to arrive safely at the grave in a well preserved body. But, rather to skid in sideways........
totally worn out and broken, shouting 'Holy ****, WHAT A RIDE!'"
Of course you can adopt etc but thank god you went to the Gp as the cancer may have been underlying and something bad could have happened in time.
I hope she gets back to full health and that you are helping each other with the bad time you are going through
Dark Samurai
01-03-2017, 02:46 AM #6Mate, this is very bad news.
Of course you can adopt etc but thank god you went to the Gp as the cancer may have been underlying and something bad could have happened in time.
I hope she gets back to full health and that you are helping each other with the bad time you are going through
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So sorry to hear that mate, haven't got a clue what to say to be honest, but hope the MRI results are better than you expect and you both get through this very hard time
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orry to hear,mate,it not often the Rev is lost for word,but our thought go out to u and your family
Not sure what to say but my prayers are with you. I know your world will be upside down at the moment but you do need to get your real family to support you if you can. ![[Image: clubbanner.gif]](http://www.ranatech.co.uk/evo/clubbanner.gif)
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